There’s a scene in Bruce Almighty that I just can’t help but relate to. Given all the powers of God, the one thing Bruce can’t do is mess with free will. That doesn’t stop him from trying. At one point, desperate for the one thing he actually wants, he stands in front of his girlfriend begging her to take him back. “LOVE ME!” he shouts. But his powers are limited.
This is how I feel in my job all day every day. I work with such beautiful unmined gems. All of you are unique treasures and I want nothing more than to tuck you under my arm and nurse you back to health. The problem (and the solution) is that it isn’t up to me, it’s up to you. I absolutely cannot write you a prescription to solve whatever ails you. Only you can.
Sure I can give you the basics. I can tell you what foods will support your unique hormonal imbalances, I can provide you with meditations that will help you conceive. I can even tell you all the scientific backing for everything that has been proven in randomized trials to “work”. But at the end of the day only you can heal yourself. Only you know what you are starving for in life, what version of malnutrition you are experiencing. And only you can take steps in your life to heal it.
As a coach this can be severely frustrating. The women I work with want it all to be about food. It’s controllable, rationable. It’s something we can take charge of. But emotional and spiritual changes don’t work like that. So many times, when working with a client I just want to say: “If you would just dump that boyfriend you hate, sex might feel a heck of a lot better!” or “If you could just let yourself eat a chocolate chip cookie, your ovaries will heal” But it isn’t up to me to make those decisions. Nor do I even know if they are the right ones. Only you do.
The absolute best thing I can do, in working with you, is to help you unlock your own inner wisdom. That part of you that knows where you’re hurting, that knows what needs nourished, but just might not know how exactly that relates to their endocrine health. It might not be measurable, or even completely explainable. But your body knows what it needs.
In my own body, my eating habits are a constant, but my menstrual cycles know exactly when I’m lonely, scared, or criticized. And that’s why I know, that no matter how much I read, grow, and learn, it is absolutely vital for me to work with a coach that understands that and to mentor under someone who can help me unlock that. And that’s what I hope to provide to you as well.
The absolute most vital part of everything I do, is the coaching. If I handed you a checklist of how to eat and what to do, you’d do it, and you’d feel better, but you wouldn’t heal. In coaching sessions I have the opportunity to explore with you until we get at what’s really causing those hormonal symptoms. For one women it was feeling trapped- she ovulated for the first time in a year the day she quit her job. For another woman it was feeling unloved, her cycle regulated the moment she realized she was pushing her boyfriend away. Your body is smart and it knows when something is wrong. Which is why we need to change the mindset of hormonal health. We need to stop thinking like a diagnostician, picking apart our periods and taking different supplements for different imbalances. Instead we need to start thinking like the intuitive women we are, addressing those needs that are going unmet.
Thankfully, there are some clues as to which emotional hurdles may be causing your hormonal imbalances. Stay tuned! Part two will help you start the conversation with yourself to address what may be triggering your amenorrhea, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis, hypothyroidism, and low progesterone! You absolutely can heal your body, and I can’t wait to help you discover that!