Life planning is one of my absolute most favorite things to do in the world. I revise my plans every six months or so, and it never stays the same. Always changing, always growing, always getting newer and more exciting.
I do want to take a breather here though and acknowledge that I have arrived. I have spent a good chunk of these last five years in “what’s next” mode. Always looking to a new goal, or starting a new project. But I’ve realized that there will never be this shining “I’M DONE” moment so I’ve decided to start practicing living like I’m done every single day.
For so long I’ve had a goal of owning my own business that both served my entrepreneurial spirit, and women in need of hormonal healing. I do both, right now! And I ALMOST didn’t realize that. Thankfully, I met with some beautiful women these past few weeks whose praise really opened my heart to what I am doing now. I can take rest and acknowledge that the work I’ve done already is enough. I am already worthy, already contributing, I’ve already arrived.
So while I honor the present moment, and hope to keep that in my heart, I know my dreaming of the future will never cease. In that vein, here are my current, always evolving ideas for my next few years.
My Late Twenties
Nurture my Business: I’ve built two programs I am absolutely thrilled about so rather than immediately jumping into the next one and becoming a busy little bee again, I’ve decided that I’m going to focus on what I already have. I am going to spend this year fully dedicated to my beautiful program participants. All my time and business efforts will focus solely on helping women heal their periods, and ditch their birth control. Simple and brilliant.
Build Community: My husband and I have realized that community is super important to us and so we’ve decided to put more energy into building it. For me this means spending more time with our existing friends and opening space in my life for new ones. In my dream world I’d love to have all my closest friends and relatives living just down the street. Since this is not a reality, we need to build it! I want people I can depend on when times are hard, and people that will take my (hypothetical) kids if I need a break. I want people who can go for a drink on an hour’s notice and people that want to go backpacking or rafting on the weekends. Community is important to our health and happiness so this year I want to be open to nurturing the friendships in our lives.
Show some Self-Love: By focusing my business, energy, and love, I’ll have more time to devote to my own love and care. This is a life I plan on living to the full so I’m done with making crazy long to-do lists and soaking up every waking hour with busy, busy, busyness. This year there will plenty of time for playing, gardening, learning the harp, and loving my life.
Honor my Marriage: My husband and I will celebrate our tenth anniversary this September!! I can hardly believe I’m married to the man who used to eat easy-mac in front of my dorm room when I was only 18 years old. So much has changed, yet so much has stayed the same. Check out this throwback picture from our Colorado days. We were only 19 in this picture! And thank heaven I got over that zip-off pants stage (those were a well-intentioned gift honey…)
We have grown so much as a couple and this year have decided to devote even more time to being together. Since hubby is a traveling salesman (it’s cooler than it sounds), we have become very independent, focusing more on the things we love as individuals and less on the the things we love doing as a couple. These next few years we went to focus on minimizing that time apart, growing our time together, and allowing ourselves to be a little more dependent.
My Early Thirties
Grow my Business: I have big ideas for the future but they’re ones I want to manifest and nurture as they come. Maybe I’ll write a book or start a speaking tour. Maybe I’ll write a column for one of my favorite magazines or be featured on a TV program I admire. I don’t know what the future holds for me and my business, but I absolutely CAN wait to see it all unfold. I am soooo happy to be waiting and loving where I’m at.
Maybe Work on the Kid Thing? I don’t know if kids are in our future or not, but right now I’m trying to reverse some of my longstanding notions on motherhood in an effort to be more open to what the future might hold for me and my husband. I’m open to God on this one and trust him to be the deciding factor in the great kid debate.
My Mid Thirties
Write a book: One of my my favorite ways to relax is also one of my most guilty pleasures. There is nothing more relaxing to me than a hammock, and endless stretch of afternoon, and the latest Young Adult triology. I loved the heck out of The Hunger Games, The Mortal Instruments series, and the Divergent trilogy. And lately I wondered if I might one day pick up my creative energy and write a Young Adult novel myself, or even a trilogy. Sounds like fun, so why not?
Start a Church: I’ve long had this idea of starting a church for people that don’t like church. I envision gathering in the park of my hometown with a coffee truck pulled up to the curb and people picnicking out on their blankets. There would be none of that dreaded singing business, just one person telling one story. Sometimes it might be a pastor from a local church, sometimes it’s just a person from our community sharing their story of faith. Maybe we’ll hear from scientists, children, math teachers, or prostitutes. We’ll hear one story each week from one person who’s found God and then we’ll drink coffee and eat pastries and enjoy each other’s company on the lawn. That is the vision I have for a church, and while it’s not ready yet, it’s something I believe to be part of my future.
How to Set Balanced Goals
One thing I’m intentional about when setting my goals is the intense need for wiggle room. While I believe its important to have goals to strive toward, I also believe it’s important to enjoy what is. Afterall, thinking back to the goals I set for myself three years ago, I had thought I was going to open a yoga studio and start running yoga retreats. Sure, those goals got me to where I am now, but they changed drastically in the process. Not only that, but some goals can be more harmful than they are fruitful. So many women without periods, for example, will set all kinds of crazy goals for their health only to forget to thank their body for what it is already doing. Instead they blame their bodies for not responding to their goals.
How can you set goals that nurture your drive for the future, while supporting and enjoying how far you’ve already come? I’d love to hear your stories!